The meaning of bashert:
Bashert is a wonderful Yiddish word which has many intricate layers of meanings. In it’s basic form it means “meant to be” but that alone doesn’t really give you the full character of the word.
Meeting a soulmate, running into an old friend at the grocery store, rescuing an animal or not getting a certain job can be as I call “bashert moments”.
Bashert moments are never isolated. Lets say you over sleep one morning. You jump out of bed and attempt to reduce your usual hour morning routine into ten minutes. Impressed by your ability to get ready so quickly you let out a sigh of relief when you realize you won’t be late. But, once in your car you realize you’ve left your wallet in the house. You rush back into your house and go on a mad dash race to try to find it. By the time you do find it about 15 minutes later you’re pissed because you are no longer on time. You get back into your car and begin to drive to your destination. About a mile down the road you hit a lot of traffic. You get angry because this is going to make you even later. Noticing people in the street you ask one of them what happened? One person tells you,”Fifteen minutes ago I was driving and next thing I knew a huge tree limb fell on my car and now my car is totaled.”
In this case it was “bashert” you woke up late and couldn’t find your wallet so you would not have been the one with a fallen limb on your car.
And what about the driver of the car that had the limb fall on her car? Well, it would be considered “bashert” too. It’s believed that even though something bad happened during one moment in her life, something good will come out of it as a result. So to get to that good it was bashert she go through the bad.