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Trump Supporter’s accountability

Finger_pointingLets surmise Trump has a  condition known as diarrhea of the mouth…poor fellow. As a result of his condition sadly, he can’t see the difference between speaking your mind and hurting people.  if because of his horrible condition, how is it his supporters over look, make excuses for and totally ignore the negative comments he’s made? He has spoken negatively about blacks, women, Jews, muslims, gays and the handicapped.  Surly most (Trump) supporters has at LEAST one of those “kinds of people” in their family or a friend who they care about and love. Don’t you? Do you speak negatively to your own family and friends? Come on, you mean you don’t call each other fat, stupid, dumb and the men you know don’t make references about the size of their penis’ at the dinner table? Well, slap my ass and call me Sally, I hope the hell you don’t.  SO, then why is it OK for Trump to do it? How are using those words and insults part of “speaking one’s mind” and acceptable? If it is something you’d never say to your friends or family members because it’s hurtful then it is NEVER OK for anyone to say it to members of our country and world.

AND SO, TO YOU Trump supporters I point my finger at you…I point to you and ask where is your accountability in allowing him to speak to your friends and family as he has done and continues to do?

You know, my father used to speak his mind too. He sure did. He used to call me names when I didn’t agree with him. He said I was a loser. I was stupid. I was dumb AND I would never amount to anything. And those were just the tip of the iceberg (and not the Jewish kind either). It was common for him to call me a bitch and other derogatory names against women. Today, we would call that verbal abuse. We also know that speaking like that is counter productive and does nothing but alienate the very people who are being insulted. SO, I ask you again. Why is it OK for Trump to say those things?

This is not about Hilary Clinton. This isn’t about any other aspect of the 2016 election. I am writing this piece to address the verbally abusive statements Donald Trump has made. This is about a man named Donald Trump who has stood up before our nation and made fun of handicapped people, said ALL blacks are lazy and referenced other women in regards to their beauty (or there lack off). How do you as a supporter justify the negative and mean things he has said?  Would you tolerate your spouse, son or friend from saying it to you?  Gosh, I hope not. How do you justify the amount of hate that he has provoked in others during his campaign rallies? There are record numbers of hate groups like the KKK who are not only showing their support of Trump BUT they have also been acknowledged in a positive manner by Trump. This is NOT OK! During a campaign rally any criticism voiced from a member of a crowd (to Trump), he immediately attacks them by name calling.  Wasn’t that a kind of behavior we did in grade school? PEOPLE, where’s the logic here? Now, name calling is part of speaking one’s mind? Are you kidding me?  Why are you not appalled? You would be if it were your son or daughter speaking that way but the potential president of the United States is allowed?

Here’s the thing. We are the UNITED States of America. We are made up of many not just one. Our country is about justice for the many and not simply for the few. I believe in voting for a person who will stand up for each and every one of us AND NOT one who will put them down. If a man like Trump is willing to speak negatively against one group, how can you be so certain yours won’t be next? The manner in which Trump has behaved and the way his supporters have followed him saddens me beyond words. How can loving people overlook the hate he has publicly voiced? And how is it his supporters have not demanded he stop?  How do YOU allow him to speak to one of your family members, a friend, a co-worker and a neighbor as he has done? AND lastly, are you not giving him permission to speak as he does when you sit by idly and say nothing?

I have not heard one supporter of Trump I know denounce his hateful statements. All I’ve heard Trump supporters say is they like him because he’s speaking his mind, he’s honest AND Clinton is a crook. Let me tell you something people. My father also spoke his mind and it was damaging. It doesn’t matter if the hateful talk is coming from a parent or from a man running for presidency. The bottom line is it’s wrong. I’m SICK AND TIRED of the bigot and the abuser being protected. Don’t attempt to bull shit me and try to disguise his name calling as “simply speaking one’s mind”. OH HELL NO! IF Hilary Clinton were to say the hateful things as Trump has said, I (as a lifelong Democrat) would have no choice but to vote for the other candidate. I respect myself AND my fellow human being far more than to support someone willing to use any of my friends in that way.

I have to be honest here and say I am disappointed in my family and friends who support Trump.  I am disappointed in my Trump supporting friends for not demanding, screaming from the roof tops and being appalled at Trump. It makes me wonder. Do my friends and family members who support him really believe the abusive remarks he’s made? Do you not see it as abuse or hate (and if not I’m dumbfounded)?  Do you really not recognize what hate sounds like? How about replacing the person he’s speaking about and putting you in there? I guarantee if you do, you will better hear what I hear.

BUT, if you aren’t certain let me point these things out from statements he’s made: making fun of a handicapped person through hand gestures, saying ALL blacks are lazy, saying Mexico is sending us ALL of their criminals, referring to a woman as unattractive, ugly and a bitch and calling people fat and dumb. When you make a statement that says ALL in a group are this or that, that is called a bigoted remark. That’s like saying ALL white people have black hair.  It’s just simply not true.

Do you still say you applaud him for “speaking his mind?” Really?  After all, why do we need diplomacy from a president? Gosh, that’s not important, right? After all just think what Donald Trump could say when speaking to  Bashar Al-Assar? Gosh, I hope he tells him to go to hell and that he’s a stupid ass bastard. How about Trump speaking to other hate filled, wanting to bomb the hell out of others, world leaders? No need to worry about diplomacy or worrying about speaking his mind. After all those leaders won’t mind…oh, wait a minute… those are leaders who have had their own citizens murdered for far lessor “offenses”. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? Trump has a condition known as diarrhea of the mouth…he has no filter no matter who he’s speaking to.  Let’s just insight the volatile. And then there are those of us who fit into those categories he has said bigoted things about, how about us? Just ignore it? Really?

It saddens me tremendously more than anything to have family and friends make excuses for his behavior instead of demanding better. How am I supposed to react? How do you think it makes me feel? You say you value me but you vote for a man who doesn’t. You say you accept my marriage but you vote for a man who doesn’t (and wants to take it away from me). You say you understand the need for Carol to adopt Judah but then you vote for a man who wants to keep us from doing so. And you tell me how unfair it is to be fired from a job simply because I’m gay and yet, yes, you vote for a man who believes it’s OK.

If my friends and family members do love us and support us for who we are then where the HELL is your outrage? Why in the HELL are you not screaming from the roof tops telling that man to stop? Does it not matter that much or is that important to you? Is it  because it really doesn’t effect you? Holy hell I hope more than anything it’s not because you actually agree with him in regards to his hateful comments.  You do know by remaining silent it only gives him the permission to continue AND by voting for him  makes YOU an accomplice? Again, you ask if this is this personal? Really? Hell yes! This is MY family! When friends and family members vote for a man who wants to hurt MY FAMILY it makes me sad and angry. I point my finger to you for your participation.

It blows my mind to have friends and family members who would never speak hatefully in their own homes, yet are voting for a man who has made name calling and making fun of people the norm in his campaign.  To have friends and family members who have seemed to have embraced me as a lesbian and a Jew BUT are voting for a man who has made blanket derogatory remarks against me.  I just don’t understand.

Listen, when I hear any person speaking negatively about another, I am standing up and speaking out. Sadly, I am often the only one and I don’t understand why.  It’s my duty, though, to treat my fellow humans with integrity AND stand with them in the time of need.  I’m especially outraged when the injustice is directed to a friend or family member because then it is personal.

Let me say this again. This is NOT ABOUT CLINTON! This isn’t about being a Republican or a Democrat. THIS IS ABOUT STANDING UP FOR YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY, CO-WORKER and NEIGHBOR. THIS IS ABOUT SPEAKING OUT  against a man who in very plain English has said inexcusable things about the very people YOU claim you care about in your own lives.

AND SO here I wait and watch making YOU accountable…



Gays to the recession rescue!

OK, so I think the gay community has it ALL wrong in the way they are trying to get gay marriage legalized. The approach they have been taking clearly isn’t working. The response we saw with Chick-fil-a’s customer appreciation day made that loud and clear. I feel it’s time for a new approach and one that better “sells” same-sex marriage. Y’all know the phrase, “Work smarter, not harder?” Well in my approach it wouldn’t be necessary to convince the masses or to even deal with them. My approach goes straight (no pun) to those in positions of political power and to use a language that makes them listen. And I feel now is the perfect time to make that pitch. In other words I have this crazy idea.

I bet you are wondering what in the hell is the special language that makes those political officials listen. Can you guess? Well, I’ll tell you. It’s the language of the almighty dollar. That’s it. Ok, you got me. There is a twist. I feel if we show in dollars how much money gay marriage could bring to the states and show how that can help  considerably during these hard times we’d have a better chance of getting it passed. But now is the time as people are at rock bottom and are placing more importance to get back on their feet rather than to discriminate. As I mentioned this idea isn’t about convincing the masses but if the idea helps to do so, then it’s a perk.

Since I live in the state of Georgia in the USA I am going to use my state to make my point. The numbers are guestimations and are not exact. However, it will show you how my idea could work.

Before I begin though I want to say that I feel the marriage license fee needs to increase. I’m suggesting $200.

Alright there are about 10 million people who live in Georgia. It is said one in every ten are gay or lesbian. That would guestimate approximately 100,000 gays and lesbians in the state. However, some of those are kids or other so lets take that number down to 75,000. But, I am sure not EVERY gay and lesbian is going to marry for one reason or another which is why I am reducing the total number of gay couples ( who would marry) to 60,000. If you divide that by two that makes 30,000 couples. Now if we multiply 30,000 couples by the marriage license fee that would make a $6,000,000.00 income at one time (as there would be a rush) in the state of Georgia alone.

The states with lower numbers of gays and lesbians obviously wouldn’t be impacted as much.  Usually though those are the states who had high rates of discrimination which created a lower gay and lesbian population.  Here’s where it could get interesting though (because greed usually wins.) The States who are in desperate need of the extra income would begin to offer incentives to gay couples to come to their state to live. “The gays” could look at those offers as reparations for the discrimination they endured over the years. Who knows what else could come out of it. It seems to be a win win for both the gay community and to our communities at large. There is a “prize” for everyone. Who could refuse?

Listen, I know it isn’t fair to have to “sell” gay marriage in this way. Believe me, I understand. But, I am an opportunist which means I am a full believer in using any and all opportunities like getting something so outlandish as gay marriage passed. This is how I see it during bad economic times. When the masses are downtrodden they are more easily sueded for the hope of a better life.  Then you have the politicians who feel the pressure from the people so they are more apt to listen to more unconventional ways to help their constituents.

Sounds crazy? I know but hell, it’s worth a shot. It’s not as if other methods have worked, right? Crazy as it may sound you just never know. After all it could work. We certainly wouldn’t be any worse off. If only I knew a politician to whom I could make this pitch.

Oh, how I humor myself. I’m such a dreamer.


I have always enjoyed Chic-fil-a but I will no longer be a patron. When a business makes their living off a diverse array of customers I feel it’s hurtful to speak negatively against any of them. To me that’s not only bad business but disrespectful. What if this company made a public statement saying they didn’t recognize interracial marriage? It was only a few years ago that it was still illegal in several Southern states. What if the CEO announced that anyone who didn’t believe in Jesus Christ as their savior would go to hell? In both cases there would have been a HUGE backlash (as there should be). The company admitting their Christian foundations is fine but I think they are taking it too far. Basically, if you can’t say something nice, it’s best to say nothing at all.

Having said that I do blame my own community. Until we, the gay community, begins taking an overwhelming stance against this (as the blacks did with Martin Luther King, Jr. during the days of segregation) then I’m afraid this type of discrimination will continue. As a result these types of companies will only be praised by many (or many will remain neutral) which won’t make change happen. If my community isn’t willing to step up to the plate then why should others do it for us? “If I am not for myself, then who will be for me?”
After a young person I knew committed suicide because he saw his life as a gay man hopeless and unworthy of living I became committed to living my life openly and honestly. And I lost two jobs because of it. But, if my example saved one life, it was all worth it. Do I “wear my gayness on my sleeve”? Hell yes! And accompanied with my gayness I also wear my Jew-ness in the same manner. It is who I am. I live my life no differently than any other person who is happy with who they are. I live for the day where others like my family will do the same so that we may unite in a more conducive and constructive manner so that no company or government can discriminate and be allowed to take my rights away.

Posted by on August 1, 2012 in bi, free speech, gay, Gays, lesbians, transgender